Phil Callaway – Overcoming Burnout – Truth To Go
Phil Callaway is an award-winning author and speaker, known worldwide for his humorous yet perceptive look at life. He lives in Alberta, Canada with his wife and three children. He will be teaching this month from his book, “Making Life Rich Without Any Money”.
Putting God in the Driver’s Seat as a Business Owner
John Edelman owns the largest used car dealership in the country, and proves God and business go hand in hand. John operates his business with a conscience, selling used cars the way God would want. His sound Biblical business principles will inspire and motivate you to “put God in the driver’s seat” for your business.
Healthy or Toxic?
What kind of relationships do you have?
What is the most important and foundational requirement for a successful business?
It’s not capital, credit or cash flow. The most critical building blocks for business success are good relationships. You need to have trusting, healthy relationships with clients, suppliers, employees and investors if your business is to thrive.
In fact, what is the criteria for a successful life? The easiest place to get the answer to that question is at the funeral of a successful person. What do mourners remember and celebrate? They eulogize the person’s relationships not their amazing balance sheet. Our success in life is measured by the quality of our relationships and how our life contributed to the lives of others.
The desire for relationships is one of the most fundamental characteristics of being human. This is part of God’s nature that he has given to us since we are made in his image. God is relational and he wants us to be as well. Just look at the relationship that Jesus had with his Father during his ministry on earth. They were intimate close friends, constantly talking to each other. The whole reason why Jesus came to earth was to reestablish a relationship with man. God poured his love into Jesus. Jesus poured God’s love into us through relationship.
Satan has damaged this gift which was given to us for our benefit and enjoyment. He uses relationships to hurt us.
This has enormous implications for our personal and business relationships. It means that relationships can be healthy and beneficial or unhealthy, toxic and wounding. We have the responsibility to choose what our relationships will be like. The easiest way to look at this critical choice is to consider the characteristics of the two types of relationships and how your decision affects your business.
Healthy relationshps are giving relationships. If you are walking in a healthy relationship with God, he is continually pouring his loving nature into you. You in turn have a surplus of God’s love to share with others. At home you would be a loving and affirming spouse and parent. At work you would be serving your customers with the intent of making them more successful. You would treat your suppliers as business partners who are making your success possible. You would see your employees as valued assets to be developed, not just an expense. Encouragement, affirmation with respectful correction would be your management style. Relationships would grow stronger as trust grew each day.
The closer you walk with God, the easier it is to pour His love into everyone you are in relationship with. It is the most effective and least expensive way to gain customers, retain staff and have suppliers bidding for your business. Healthy, giving relationships are a very cost effective way to grow your business. People will want to do business with you and help you in any way possible.
Unhealthy or toxic relationships are taking relationships. In a taking relationship your focus is always on yourself and how you can use others to meet your needs. This perspective has so permeated our society that we consider it normal.
Our culture exhaults self sufficiency and independence. This perspective devalues relationships and considers them to be mere stepping stones on the path to personal success. Relationships become disposable tools for personal gain.
Using this business relationship model, customers are cash cows waiting to be milked. Suppliers are to be squeezed with growing demands and smaller, delayed payments. Employees are pack mules who are to be used and discarded. In this model the relationships are all one way and people only work with you grudgingly until they find an escape. Trust is unnecessary since relationships are forced. Toxic relationships will destroy your family and business.
Unhealthy relationships result from unresolved emotional pain and hurts from your past. Until you allow the love of God to bring healing, you turn to others to meet those needs and use tools like control and manipulation to create taking relationships. The more Satan reinforces your pain, the more you try to take from others, which slowly destroys relationships both at home and at work.
So what is the solution for healthy relationships and a growing business?
Walk with God in a close intimate relationship like Jesus did. Continuously live in the downpour of God’s love for you that will heal your wounds. Share your surplus of God’s love with everyone you are in relationship with. Then watch how people change around you and your profits grow.
Dr. Grant Mullen is a mental health physician, author, international seminar leader and consultant. He writes and teaches how our emotional well being determines our success in life and business. For more information and resources including his new book The Breakthrough Solution, Release the potential in people, visit www.thebreakthroughsolution.com or www.drgrantmullen.com.
Leadership Requires Maturity
By Bruce Witt, Leadership Works founder and business coach
One of the saddest things in life is when a leader grows old yet never fully grows up.
1 Cor 13:11-12; “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.”
People may have a position or role of leadership, but if they don’t act with maturity, they will not be effective. One can possess skills and talent, but it does little good if not combined with a growing sense of maturity. We have probably known and have experienced this in others and maybe ourselves.
Maturity takes a commitment and often involves pain and sacrifice. The three overall stages of the maturing process are child, adult, servant leader and each are marked by a key characteristic: child – chaos; adult – order; servant leader – maturity.
A “childish” leader is self-focused, lacks consistency, is a whirl of activity, and is forever seeking fun. They chase accolades and pursue trophies (car, wife, house, job, money). Their emotions become engaged, then, their reasoning and perspective goes out the window.
To move beyond this, one needs to take responsibility and make choices that bring order in their personal lives, family, and business. The focus moves from self to stability and working with others.
Leaders must not stop here, but desire to be the servant to which God calls them. This requires investing in others, having an eternal view of people and situations, and knowing the Lord intimately. The maturing process takes time, wisdom and power. The result will be an eternal legacy.
“Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.” Joshua Loth Liebman
Reflecting Christ in Prayer
An eight-point check-up to help you extend the power of God in the world
When’s the last time you had a prayer check-up? Performance appraisals of employees are commonplace; routine medical check-ups have become a way of life for many people. But when’s the last time you assessed your prayer life?
If you did undertake a prayer check-up, what standard would you use?
Doesn’t it make sense to use Jesus Christ as that standard? After all, He claims that “He who has seen me has seen the Father,” and that “I and the Father are one.” The ‘Father’ He is referring to is God, and it is to God that we pray. So if we pray to God, and if Jesus calls God ‘Father’ and claims to be the exact representation of the Father, one with the Father, then we can expect to learn a great deal from Him about how to communicate with the Father.
By reflecting Jesus in our prayer life, we can engage with God in the way God desires, and experience God in the way Jesus experienced Him on this earth. At the same time as our prayer life is enriched, our understanding of God will be expanded. As our understanding gets stretched, our service to God will increase. As our service increases, the transforming power of God will become more evident, not just in our own lives, but in the lives of those we influence. To reflect Jesus in our prayer life is to extend the power of God in the world.
Thus, Jesus provides the model for how to pray.
All but one of Jesus’ recorded prayers are brief, pointed, and uttered in absolute confidence that the Father knows what is essential. As the all-knowing Father, God does not need to be instructed as to the situation or person being prayed for; He simply needs to be included in one’s efforts to intercede, or to seek clarity as to what course of action to take. Secure in the knowledge that God knows what is essential, Jesus willingly subsumes His will to that of the Father.
Mark, the author of the second Gospel, records that “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” Solitude, quiet, a place where God could get at Him without external interruptions or distractions, preparing Himself before the challenges of the day began — those were key to Jesus’ prayer time. We would do well to practice that.
Evening, too, could be a time of prayer for Jesus. After feeding the 5,000 late in the afternoon, He sent the disciples by boat to go on ahead of Him to the next town, while He “went into the hills to pray.” His prayer continued long enough that the disciples “straining at the oars, because the wind was against them” had reached the middle of the Sea of Galilee, some five kilometres distance before He looked up and saw them. Jesus did not need to be with His disciples, His followers, every moment, even in times of storm. No leader needs to be present to her staff all of the time. There are times when prayer alone is much more valuable than ‘busy’ time in the presence of others, even when those others seem to require one’s personal attention.
The Gospel writer Luke pulls back the curtain and lets us see Jesus in the midst of demands, and in the process gives us a model to follow. “… crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Now there’s a picture designed to get our attention! Our schedules are over-flowing; the demands of the ‘crowds’ are ever present; our Blackberries bear constant testimony that we really are indispensable and just have to at least read, if not immediately respond to, the latest email. In fact, our lives bear a striking resemblance to that of Jesus at the height of His ministry. Too many demands, too few resources, too little time. So what did He do, habitually? “Withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Isn’t there something there in His practice that can help us in ours?
On occasion Jesus would do the unthinkable. Sometimes, He “spent the night praying to God.” Our thought is, “Well, I could do that too if I had nothing to do but sleep in the next day.” We can’t (usually), and He didn’t. After one notable night of prayer, Jesus the next day selected his ‘inner circle,’ the Twelve to whom He would entrust the entire future of the Christian faith. Then He went on that same day into the midst of “a large crowd of his disciples … and a great number of people” from the major population centres of Judea. He healed in the midst of throngs pushing in on Him, and taught patiently, all the time walking as He went until He reached the next town. Talk about a demanding schedule! As a great Christian has said, “I have so much to do tomorrow that I have to get up two hours earlier for prayer so I will be prepared.”
Jesus had a way of packing a great deal of content, of pain, agony, heartbreak, into a very succinct sentence. Faced with the prospect of the crucifixion, recoiling from the horror that lay ahead, He would say only a handful of words: “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” Again, a model of placing ourselves at the disposal of the Father, in absolute confidence not only that He is wiser, but that His strength is sufficient for us in our time of greatest trial and need.
In addition to being a model for prayer, Jesus also asks us to understand that He is the means through whom prayer is offered. Jesus is very specific that general prayers offered generally to some general deity are of no avail. We are to pray to a very specific God, whom we are to call, by invitation, “Father,” for very specific items. But more than that, we are to pray in the name of Jesus Himself.
As He was preparing the disciples for the pending events of His trial and crucifixion, Jesus made an astounding statement. “…the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.” A short time later at the same meal, as if to ensure that the disciples would not misunderstand the import of His words, Jesus repeated the promise: “I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.”
Now we need to understand two elements of this. The first is that we need to put aside our fuzzy thinking about the One to whom we pray. We pray to God the Father, not to Jesus, and we pray in the name of Jesus.
Secondly, when we pray in the name of Jesus, it helps us to clarify our understanding about what to pray for. In human terms, there are certain claims we do not make about specific individuals, because we know them well enough to know that such claims would not be true. While supermarket tabloids may be able to make the most outrageous claims about movie stars we do not personally know, with some expectation that people will actually believe the claims, we are much more careful about what we believe about the behaviour of our friends and family members. We put all rumours and charges through the filter of what we know to be true about that individual. Similarly, as we come to know Jesus better, and allow Him greater sway in our life, our prayers become more refined, more reflective of what we know is in keeping with His teachings and His representations of God, the Father. To pray with the assurance that the Father will give us whatever we ask in the name of Jesus is not a licence to pray for outrageous outcomes, or personal glory. Such prayers are not at all consistent with Jesus’ teachings or the meaning of His life, death, and resurrection; the words for such prayers would catch in our throat before we utter them, because they are not ‘in the name of Jesus.’ To pray in His name is to pray as He would pray, for the things for which He would pray, and always with the desire that God’s will will be done, not our own.
James, the half-brother of the Lord, writing a number of years after the resurrection of Jesus, comments on what it means to reflect Christ in prayer. “You want something but don’t get it. … You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. … Submit yourselves, then, to God.”
Reflecting Jesus in our prayer life is not always easy. It requires that we spend some time in solitude, whether morning, evening or other times of the day. It requires that we willingly turn people and circumstances over to the Father, and give up the notion that we are indispensable. It requires that we develop the capacity to pray and to do at the same time. Just because our schedules are busy and people press in does not mean that prayer is impossible. In fact, it is in those times that prayer is especially essential. It requires that we allow God’s will to prevail, and to not mistake our wisdom or desires for His. And it requires that we pray in Jesus’ name, and allow our prayers to be guided by His desires, not our own.
How’s your prayer life? By using the eight-point check-up outlined above, you’ll be able to take corrective action where you need to. In the process, you’ll be reflecting Jesus in prayer and extending the power of God in the world.
Reflecting God
A powerful illustration of our relationship with the Creator and His Son
It has taken a long time for us to understand what God’s plan for mankind really is. We have gone through many stages in our understanding including: Jesus died for us so we could escape hell, to Jesus died for us so we could go to Heaven. But God’s original purpose for man is clear. We were created to be the image of God.
When we were first formed, God made it clear what His intentions were for us as seen in what He said when He created us. “Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.””[1]
We were designed to be the likeness of God. Today we would say we were to be the image… mirror… reflection… of God. Mankind was created to reflect the attributes and characteristics of God. We were intended to be a physical manifestation of an invisible God. God breathed His own life into mankind to enable us to do this.
It is important to realize that God’s will for mankind has never changed. Whatever God gave to Adam and told man to do in the Garden of Eden, is still what God wants today. They had dominion and that is God’s will for us today. They were the image of God, and God wants us to be that today.
Mankind very quickly failed in reflecting God, as seen in the failure in the Garden of Eden.[2] They were tempted to be like God, but didn’t realize that in the important ways, they already were like Him. They already were reflecting Him. The one thing they wanted, they already had. The effects of that failure is still felt today among people, and there is nothing we can do to change it.
That is the bad news, now here is the good news. Jesus Christ came to earth in the image of God.[3] The very thing we were supposed to be, He is. But that is only half of the good news. We are being changed into the image of Jesus. “And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.”[4]
This is illustrated simply by our own solar system. The sun gives the earth light at day and the moon at night. But under closer examination, the moon does not give light, it is still the sun. Actually, there is no moonlight. It is sunlight reflecting off the moon. In fact, the moon is reflecting the light of the sun whether we see it or not.
It is the most natural thing for the moon to do. You can go outside at night, and you will never hear the moon grunting, “I think I can; I think I can; I think I can.” It reflects automatically. The only time it does not reflect is during a lunar eclipse, when the moon passes in the shadow of the earth.
This is a powerful example of our purpose and relationship with God and His Son. We were created in the image of God. We were designed to reflect Him. It is the most natural thing for us to do on our life journey. In fact, as long as we stay in the presence of the Son, we will reflect Him. The only time, we don’t reflect, is when we pass into the shadow of the world. When the world gets in between us and God, we stop reflecting the Son just like when the moon gets into the shadow of the earth it stops reflecting the sun.
This issue of Business Life explores that very concept. The goal of our life path is not to head toward self-actualization or self-fulfillment or even Freedom 65. The goal of our life development is still the same goal as the original — to reflect Christ. Our goal is to become spiritually mature. May this magazine and this ministry help you get there.
Footnotes
- Genesis 1:26-28 NIV
- Genesis 3:1-7
- Colossians 1:15
- 2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV
First appeared in Spring 2007 Business LIFE
Selling with Integrity in Today’s Tough Times
Selling with Integrity in Today’s Tough Times with Ed Huculak, General Manager and Director of Advertising
In April 2007 Ed Huculak was appointed to the position of General Manager/Director of Sales for the Calgary Sun. A graduate of the University of Manitoba, Mr. Huculak worked initially for Xerox before spending 10 years at the Winnipeg Sun as an executive in national and retail advertising. He was Director of Advertising at the Calgary Sun from 1996 until becoming Publisher and CEO of the Winnipeg Sun in 2003. He is an active member of the community, involved in charitable and business-related causes. Ed was in a TEC group in Calgary for four years.
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How Badly Do You Want To Become a Millionaire?
A fresh perspective on living in this world when compared to eternity
Do you think you could be happy with one million dollars? Suppose I were to give you $1 million, with one stipulation. What would you buy? A new house? A pleasure boat? Undergo cosmetic surgery? Buy that beautiful luxury car you have dreamed about? Yes, without question, becoming a millionaire could be tremendous fun, opening up many new opportunities for you.
But remember, I said “with one stipulation.” What stipulation is that? Simply this: You would become a true, bank-certified millionaire — but for only one day. After the end of that day, you have to give everything back. Return the house, the boat, the car, or whatever else you chose to purchase. You would also have to reverse the surgery.
Suddenly, becoming a millionaire does not seem as appealing, does it? Maybe it just does not seem worth the effort and the momentary enjoyment wealth can provide if it is to be lost so quickly.
We live in a world like this, however. We want what we want, and we want it now. Interestingly, it has been observed that a mark of maturity is one’s willingness to defer immediate gratification for long-run gain.
There are two distinctly different scoreboards in life, regardless of whether your vocation is in the business and professional world or an athletic field. The first scoreboard is found on “Planet Earth.” It has at least four general categories: Beauty, Intelligence, Strength, and Money.
Beauty equals external appearance. This relates to your physical appearance, the clothes you wear, whether your spouse or “significant other” is attractive to others. “Beauty” also concerns whether your house, car, personal attire, children, work or hobby possessions inspire admiration and envy.
Intelligence relates to mental capacity and skill, real and imagined. For the past 200 years, doors of opportunity were often opened based on the college attended and the degrees earned. Now a “killer-concept” (such as innovations that started enterprises like Federal Express, Apple Computer, Microsoft and Google) can open those same doors. Today, as never before, one creative or innovative idea can change your life.
Strength pertains to physical strength, physical appearance and physical health. You cannot fully enjoy the other aspects of life if you are not healthy.
Money often equals power. It’s amazing how we envy and cater to people with money. Dollars open doors — providing the best seats in restaurants, special attention at social events, deference in important meetings.
But the harsh reality is that this life on earth, no matter how enjoyable, is a vapour. Our life spans, compared to eternity, are as fleeting as steam escaping from a tea kettle. We spend our lives playing according to the Planet Earth scoreboard, but one day, sooner that we can imagine, everything is going to vanish. It will all be replaced with what we might call a “Heaven or Hell” scoreboard: Where will you be spending eternity?
The Bible explains it this way: “And just as it is appointed for people to die once, and after this, judgment” (Hebrews 9:7). “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each may be repaid for what he has done in the body, whether good or bad” (2 Corinthians 5:10).
Suddenly, beauty, intelligence, strength and money will become useless. Sooner or later we will discover that the Planet Earth scoreboard is just not worth the effort.
